Words are so strange.
Words are sometimes so wonderfully wonderful and then sometimes words are just poop.
But then words are sometimes confusing. Like the word girly.
I have used the word girly to describe myself. But then I have used it to not describe myself and I have wrinkled my nose at the thought of being girly. I have called other people girly and thought ‘hey, why not, I’m a girl too’ and it never really occurred to me till today that maybe there’s something wrong with the word..
Maybe it’s a bit of an old fashioned word, ‘well she’s a girly girl’, what does it mean? She’s a girl that plays with girl appropriate toys, you know barbies and maybe she wears eyeshadow and maybe she’s not so keen on mud.
And a girl that plays in the mud and rolls around on the floor ‘she’s not a girly girl’.
It’s harmless really, it’s not a cuss-word, kids can say it and there mums don’t tell them off, nobody would even be offended. But maybe there’s just this little hint that being a girly girl means you have to fufill all these stereotypes and you have to want to be feminine and then people will support that, people will be okay with that. But by doing so you just encourage girls that grow into women, that girls can only do certain things and boys can do certain things because humans have to, they just have to give a word and name to everything.
Plus why do we never say ‘ooh that’s a boy-y boy’ (and don’t just say because that sounds stupid) just think about it, maybe we say other things that seem like it but I don’t think we have established this word like ‘girly’ which is so widely used in sales and advertising for boys.
And what happens to the not girly girls? The ‘tomboys’, again instead of just letting everyone be, we have to have another category to kind of show when somebody’s different. Is being called a ‘Tomboy’ a compliment?
I guess only when you want it to be, not unlike girly, we have no problems with being described using these words as long as we want to be them.
Which is why maybe we have to tone down these over generalisations just a teeny weeny bit and use some other adjectives like ‘clever’ or ‘ ambitious’, maybe this would help everyone be a little happier…
What do you think? Harmless observation or old fashioned? Let me know!